I want to change my Apple ID the email I want to use is listed in contacts

Listed in your contacts or listed in your current Apple. ID? If it is listed in your current Apple ID, you need to remove the address from your Apple ID to use it as your Apple ID. After removing the address, you will need to wait approximately 30 days before you can make that address your Apple ID email address.

Note the restrictions in the article.

Apple ID Name Change.        

 What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support    I suggest doing this before you change your Apple ID or password.