Just lately, since adding 36 wireless devices, over the course of the last three years, the poor thing seems to struggle with wireless bandwidth and devices dropping off the network
Things are going to get very sluggish at about 15-20 devices if you are using an AirPort Express to provide your wireless network. Yes, the Express is supposed to be able to handle 50 clients and in theory it might, but the network is going to be pretty much unusable at that point. Remember, the Express was designed in the 2011 timeframe, so it's not exactly latest technology.
If these didnt work, after the router upgrade, Id be VERY disappointed.. :-(
For what its worth, my neighbor bought a Netgear Nighthawk router about a month ago, and had no trouble setting up his two AirPort Express devices to "join" the Nighthawk wireless network. Of course, since the Expresses are only "n" WiFi capable, they will connect at much lower speeds than the main router is likely providing. Should be OK for AirPlay though.
Finally, the Expresses will not be able to "extend" the main WiFi signal, they will only be able to "join" the WiFi network.