As there are no viruses that attack the mac then there is no need for anti-virus apps.
At best they just use up system resources and slow your mac down, at worst they will
often flag up files as threats which could be essential system files which you may go
ahead and delete them which will harm your mac.
The same goes for any cleaning or optimisation apps, the mac does not need them for
the same reasons. The mac looks after itself on its own.
There is malware/ adware which can be dealt with by installing,
https://www.malwarebytes.com/mac/ the free version will do.
What updates were you wanting to install, updates to Catalina can be downloaded
from here, Apple - Support - Downloads once downloaded double-click to install.
Always make a full backup first.
To uninstall BitDefender go to their website and look fo r uninstall instructions.