iphone is diabled bc i forgot my nee passcode

Is there a way to enable my four day old iPhone 12. I was asked by the phone to change my passcode I have used for years to something new. And I didn't write it down and forgot the last two digits. So of course I thank ugh to I could figure it out by the process of elimination. WRONG!! The phone has been disabled for three days now and I cannot enjoy it. Says to plug into ITunes.

I did that and nothing happened. No messages came up. Nothing. Anyway someone out there can help me? I live in a rural area and Anthony's ugh my internet is good. It's a hours drive to the nearest Apple Store. Please help if possible. Sincerely- Marsha