My condolences, Denise. I am hoping everything will be alright for you.
And to take over her Apple account, Apple requires:
- The name and Apple ID of the deceased person.
- The name of the next of kin who is requesting access to the decedent’s account.
- That the decedent was the user of all accounts associated with the Apple ID.
- That the requestor is the decedent’s legal personal representative, agent, or heir, whose authorization constitutes "lawful consent.”
- That Apple is ordered by the court to assist in the provision of access to the decedent’s information from the deceased person's accounts
If you have a court order with this information, or if you need additional help, please contact Apple Support.
More information on this page: How to request access to a deceased family member's Apple accounts - Apple Support
Hope this helps you out.