connect phone to itunes

If one had attempted unlocking multiple times with incorrect Lock Screen passcode, or if a message says that the device is disabled, learn what one needs, what one gets, and what is lost.

You need a computer to follow these steps. If you don't have a computer, borrow one from a friend.

Forgot? Click below to reset…

Click->If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your ...

Regarding your data, If…

1. You have an iCloud or iTunes latest backup, then there is nothing to worry about. If not read more...
2. You have synced your data to iCloud, then what you will get back is what you have synced to iCloud and uploaded to iCloud Drive; like the information that are synced and stored in iCloud are, Contacts, Calendars, Bookmarks, Mail, Notes, Voice Memos, shared photos, iCloud Photos*, Health data, call history, and files you store in iCloud Drive. (*-If you had turned on iCloud Photos, your content is automatically stored in iCloud.)
3. You have not backed up or do not have the latest backup, nor imported nor you have synced nor uploaded your data to cloud drives prior to the situation that you are in, then I am sorry, all your data is lost.

Connect iPhone to Computer / Mac

Settings > Touch/Face ID & Passcode > USB Accessories > [Enable]

You haven't mentioned whether you have a PC or Mac. However...

1. Use your USB lightening cable --> Resolve USB-related alerts in iTunes - Apple Support
2. If unable to connect --> If iTunes doesn't recognize your iPhone, iPad, or iPod - Apple Support
3. If your computer is a...
   1. Mac --> If your computer doesn't recognize your iPhone, iPad, or iPod ...
   2. Windows PC —> Troubleshooting issues with iTunes for Windows - Apple Community
4. Use genuine cable --> Identify counterfeit or uncertified Lightning connector accessories ...
5. See how to --> Sync your iPhone, iPad, or iPod using iTunes on your computer ...

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