Apple pen 12.9 ipad

Sounds like you may have the wrong model of Apple Pencil for your iPad Pro model.

iPad Pro 1st and 2nd generation use a Lightning connector to charge Apple Pencil 1st generation, not magnets.

iPad Pro 3rd, 4th, and 5th generations have the magnet connection needed for Apple Pencil 2nd generation.

See Apple Pencil compatibility - Apple Support

Hello, ktdaspit.

Thanks for reaching out to Apple Support Communities. We see you're having an issue with connecting your Apple Pencil, and connecting it to your iPad, and we'd like to help. There is a section for troubleshooting within the following link: Connect Apple Pencil with your iPad - Apple Support

Let us know if this helps.

Take care.

Which iPad Pro year and model and with which version Pencil?

What year and model iPad Pro do you have/own?

The “A” model number can be found on the aluminium back of your iPad, in small print, right under the larger bold print “iPad”.