Hey there Summerthehippie,
Welcome to Apple Support Communities. We understand you're having some difficulties getting your Apple Watch to update and we'd be happy to help assist. Can you tell us what error message you're receiving when trying to update your Apple Watch? If you get an error that says "Unable to Verify Update," we'd suggest first following the steps in the support article below.
If you see 'Unable to Verify Update' when updating Apple Watch
Also, have you been able to try to update your watch while connected to another Wi-Fi source? If not, we'd recommend trying another connection and attempt to update and pair your Apple Watch again.
We hope this helps.