my iphone is disabled

If you have been backing up your iPhone you can still restore that backup after you follow the procedure in:

If you forgot your iPhone passcode - Apple Support

You should not lose any of your data. In any case, the procedure in the above link is the only way to "unsdisable" your iPhone.

If you forgot the passcode on your iPhone, or your iPhone is disabled -

https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT204306