Hi my ipad can't be connected ,asking to connect to iTunes how do I do this 🙃

connect it by cable to a computer and read

If you forgot the passcode on your iPad, or your iPad is disabled - Apple Support

if you don't own a computer then you will have to use a computer from a friend/relative/public lib or computer store

The nature of your problem is unclear - however, I infer from your description that you may be seeing a prompt to restore your iPad:

If you see the Restore screen on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support

These support pages outline the available methods to restore an iPad - either from a backup, or to Factory Settings:

Restore your iPhone, iPad or iPod touch from a backup – Apple Support

Restore your iPhone, iPad or iPod to factory settings – Apple Support

Restore all content to iPad from a backup - Apple Support

You’ll need access to either a PC (with iTunes installed) or a Mac (with iTunes or Finder - as appropriate for the installed version of MacOS).

Download and use iTunes for Windows – Apple Support

Update to the latest version of iTunes – Apple Support

Use of a PC or Mac computer is unavoidable. If you don’t have access to a suitable computer of your own, that of a helpful friend or family member will suffice. Alternatively, the technicians at the Genius Bar of your local Apple Store or Apple Authorised Service Provider (AASP) will be delighted to assist.