...almost every website gets flagged with not secure warning....really frustrating
If you are running macOs 10.11 as shown in your profile, there is the problem. Pretty much all the reports here of seeing that advisory are from people running macOS 10.11 El Capitan or older. Here's why.
A major supplier of browser security certificates has allowed some of its certs to expire. This primarily affects old OS versions with outdated browsers. Here is that supplier's statement on the subject:
https://letsencrypt.org/docs/dst-root-ca-x3-expiration-september-2021/
Older devices and/or their OS versions cannot support technologies that the cert's replacement uses. To get a newer version of Safari usually requires upgrading to a newer macOS version. Your 2013 iMac can run up to mac OS 10,15 Catalina.
However, something to try first: If you are seeing that advisory in Safari, try FireFox. I'm been told by trusted sources that FireFox handles certs differently from other browsers and sites with the expired cert may still work.
So it is either try FireFox, which for now still supports El Capitan or, if you iMac supports it, upgrade to a newer macOS version. Based on the narrative you have kindly provided about your previous updating grief, I suspect that FireFox is your better option until they drop suppor tof macOS 10.11.
https://www.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/new/