my iphone 5s is not connecting to iTunes. How may i connect it? I have forgotten the passcode.

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Settings > Touch/Face ID & Passcode > USB Accessories > [Enable]

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1. Use your USB lightening cable --> Resolve USB-related alerts in iTunes - Apple Support
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