Turning off auto timeout for hotspot.

Use these steps first

Restart the iPhone or iPad that provides Personal Hotspot and the other device that needs to connect to Personal Hotspot. Make sure that you have the latest version of iOS. On the iPhone or iPad that provides Personal Hotspot, go to Settings > General > Reset, then tap Reset Network Settings.

If Personal Hotspot is not working on your iPhone or iPad (Wi-Fi

The Hotspot is a carrier-specific feature. Contact your carrier, if it is not appearing on your device.

Meanwhile...

Check the following

1. Network coverage and stability
2. Data Balance
3. On your windows (See if WiFi Auto Joins is enabled)
4. Also, check if you have any stronger WiFi signal around your computer.

Try some of these options too.

1. Avoid Screen Mirroring
2. Put on Low Power Mode
3. Put Auto-Lock on (1 min):- with low power mode it will be 30 Sec
4. Put Auto Answer Off
5. Disable Push notifications for apps you do not use often
6. Keep your iPhone Facedown to prevent notifications to light up the screen
7. Enable Auto-Brightness:- Settings > General > Accessibility > Display Accommodations > Auto-Brightness [Enable]
8. Manually lower brightness from Control Center
9. If you Want to watch continuous Video. Stream it on TV or a Monitor
10. Don't force close apps; Apps that are not on the frontend screen are paused by the system to save energy. Apps require more energy to re-launch. Apps that are open in the background use large memory is a myth and quitting them is counterproductive
11. Location services to be allowed only while using the app
12. Set your iPhone to fetch email and calendar data from the internet less frequently
13. Turning off Background App Refresh 
14. Charge before it drops below 20-30%
15. Try connecting to trusted Wifi wherever available instead of Cellular
16. Enable Airplane mode in areas with bad cellular and wifi coverage. Your phone keeps trying for reconnection with the missing/weak network. This uses a lot of energy
17. Switch off Wifi & Bluetooth while in Roaming or Not in Range
18. Enable "Wifi Assist" : Settings > Cellular or Settings > Mobile Data > Wi-Fi Assist [Enable]
19. Periodically Check the Battery Health (Settings > Battery > Battery Health)

Briannray wrote:

so I don’t need to here the lame excuse that it drains the battery so don’t do it.

Who gave this excuse to you?

iPhone 11 and later models, battery performance --> About the battery and performance of iPhone 11 and later