Welcome, jiconnor, to Apple Support Communities!
Using “anti-virus”, “cleaning”, “optimizing”, etc. programs, on a Mac, is, generally speaking, a very bad idea.
Perform the EtreCheck that BDAqua has recommended.
However, I expect that we’ll find, at a minimum, that “Memory Medic” is causing more trouble than just about anything.
Note: with modern Virtual Memory (VM) systems, such as what Mac OS uses, the Operating System (OS) will quickly use all your available Random Access Memory (RAM)—unless you simply have significantly more RAM, on your computer, than what your software needs. This is simply the most efficient use of your computer’s resources.