Is link Contact spyware?

Yes but whose info is in there?

And you didn't answer my first question, if you open Settings, who shows at the top of the page, you or him? If you are sharing the same Apple ID you can both see each other's data so lets eliminate that one.

Autofill is another thing altogether. Nothing sinister there and ee can clear it unless you are using the same iCloud Apple ID.

No he cannot provided he does not have your Apple password.

Open "Find My" app.

Are any of his devices showing? If so delete them and change your Apple ID password.

Change your Apple ID password - Apple Support

"...Sorry! I was in contacts. My pic and name are the first thing on settings!..."

Good.

"...None of his devices show up, but he knows my Apple ID ..,"

Good.

He may know the ID but he must not know your password. Change it as advised above.

(I am assuming some estrangement is happening here, by the way)

Come back when you've filled in your card in Contacts and see if the "me" moves. That after all was the original question!

Do you share the same Apple ID?

You must not!

In Contacts app, who is at the top? You or he?

Tap on it and fill it in.

Good.

I meant fill in My Card in Contacts.

Finally, Auto fill, onto the advanced stage...

Settings, Passwords, Autofill passwords

Autofill should be on (green)

Keychain should be checked/ticked.

Then go through the passwords and delete any that are definitely not yours. (be sure, but he cannot access them so if not sure, leave them)

Then Settings, Safari, Clear website history and data.

Any bad autofills, just overtype and it should save to Keychain

"...I have to leave now for an important meeting. How can I reach you again?...

I'll leave it on Following. If you come back and post a response it will email me. I'm a user like you!