I am concerned that someone is using my apple id

Check your device list to see if there is a device signed in that you don't recognize. You can remove the device using the steps in the article below. As a precaution, change your password.

Apple ID device list -Check to see where you‘re signed in.   * 

 Apple ID Password Change.   -  

ASC YouTube for How to reset your Apple ID password

 What to do after you change your Apple ID or password - Apple Support  -   I suggest doing this before you change your Apple ID or password.

See the following Apple articles:

Recognize and avoid phishing messages, phony support calls, and other scams

Recognize and avoid phishing messages, phony support calls, and other scams - Apple Support

If you think your Apple ID has been compromised

If you think your Apple ID has been compromised - Apple Support

Create a strong password for your Apple ID, It is best if your password consists of eight or more characters and include upper and lowercase letters, and at least one number. You can also add extra characters and punctuation marks to make your password even stronger. 

Never provide your password, security questions, verification codes, recovery key or any other account security details to anyone else. Apple will never ask you for this information.