Where is the “Apple menu”

On a Mac running macOS, the so-called Apple menu is in the upper left corner, and is accessible by clicking on a black Apple logo shown there.

This Apple menu is accessible across all Mac apps.

Tap or click on the following blue-text link for more info: What’s in the Apple menu on Mac? - Apple Support

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There is not one on an iPhone.