Anecdotally, it seems that Apple has to try and fail to solve the
same problem three or more times before a machine will be replaced instead of repaired. But all such decisions are made on a case-by-case basis, and there is nothing published that describes the criteria (or incidental considerations, if there are any) that feed such decisions. So only Apple can answer your question. If you aren't getting satisfaction from the Apple reps you've spoken to so far, the next level of escalation will be Customer Relations at 1-800-767-2775.
Hard drives and optical drives, being mechanical devices with high-speed moving parts, will all fail eventually and are very easily and inexpensively replaced. How long they last is highly variable. You've had three fail and be replaced under warranty, which makes you fairly lucky in the sense that those failures cost you little or nothing. There have been some problems with defective batteries, and Apple has been good about replacing them for free, sometimes even out of warranty. I've never before heard of
any problem at all with an AC adapter "duck head", so that was a complete fluke for you. Drives, batteries and AC adapters are all purchased by Apple from third-party vendors, and their failures imply/suggest nothing whatsoever about the basic quality of the MBP itself. Nor have you had any basic failures of the MBP, so in my opinion you have considerably less cause for worry than you may think.
If your machine is really a year and a half old (purchased early in 2009), then its AppleCare Protection Plan coverage lasts until early 2012. If your AppleCare coverage really expires in April 2011, your machine was purchased in April 2008 and is now more than two years old.