Your iPad Power Adapter may become very warm during charging; this is entirely normal.
You can safely use a higher wattage USB-PD (Power Delivery) Power Adapter if you choose to do so. The iPad will still charge at its maximum supported charge rate (dependent upon model, up to 18-20W) from the connected Power Adapter; drawing less power than the Power Adapter is capable will cause the charger to run much cooler - although overall power “efficiency” may not necessarily improve. Ensure that the Power Adapter supports USB-PD to ensure compatibility; Apple does not support other proprietary charging standards - such as QC (Quick Charge).
Due to greater circuit resistance, longer power cables require thicker-gauge conductors to maintain the same power transfer. Always use good quality cables from well known manufacturers.