IOS 16 iMessage features don’t work right

Me and my wife both have IOS 16, and tried the iMessage edit feature.

If I edit my message to her, she sees both versions, as if she was still on an earlier version of IOS. The second one says “Edited to” then the new message.

if she does the same for

me, I see one message with an “edited” link I can click on.

Anyone know why it works on mine but not hers? I have a 13 Pro, and she has a 12 Pro. Same build of IOS on both.