How is someone controlling my iPhone?

My phone was being remotely controlled by a hacker that took over my email accounts and social media accounts. My identity was stolen and my phone was being controlled by the hacker. I would get booted out, my lock folder was accessed and now gone. A picture of my baby I miscarried was set as my Lock Screen and wallpaper. So many things so I had it disconnected but friends and still getting texts from the old phone number.

This phone iPhone 12 is new and it is extremely hot and one day I went to make a call. The number was disconnected but it was a business and from being hacked I was told to call that number if anything happens. I checked my scribbler, I have to write everything down and the number for the person was changed. It wasn’t even remotely close to the actual number.

Looking forward to seeing what others have to say or offer ideas for more security though I have done a lot to secure this phone.

iPhone was hacked while it was charging. The phone suddenly lit up and dialed a 1800 number, then garbage digits showed on the display. I tried to wrestle the phone away from the remote operator but they were lightning fast. they went into my settings and changed the emergency off screen touch controls, then started rifling through my most recent photos and when I tapped all over the screen and kept wresting the phone controls away, the remote operator dug in my latest conversations and pulled the latest images. Major lightning fast hackjob. Reset my iCloud and apple passwords. Yall should do the same. this happened around 10.45pm pacific time, Jan 2, 2023.

You just keep repeating a completely implausible story over and over and over, with the hopes someone is going to agree with you. It is virtually impossible to remotely control an iPhone. Repeating the story multiple times isn't going to change anything.

Do the things we've recommended and move on with your life.

For total peace of mind, you can create a new Apple ID and Apple ID Password for the iPhone. BUT and this is a big BUT, EVERY app you ever downloaded under the old ID will need to be repurchased under a new ID. Apps are forever tied to the Apple ID they were downloaded under.

At a minimum when you restore the iPhone and sign in with your current Apple ID to get back all your apps, CHANGE YOUR ID PASSWORD.

This is how you to do that --> Change your Apple ID password - Apple Support

Your device cannot be controlled remotely. It is possible that your iCloud account was breached if you did not use a strong password and two-factor authentication. If you think your Apple ID has been compromised - Apple Support

Restore your iPhone to factory settings. Do not use a back up:

Restore your iPhone, iPad, or iPod to factory settings - Apple Support

When did you hand your phone over to someone to let them use it without your consent or to monitor them? If you haven't, no one can control your phone.

You keep repeating an implausible story. But IdrisSeabright has given you the only advice which will give you peace of mind.