Hello notgonnausemyname,
This article explains how to adjust the volume of your AirPods to make them as loud as you want: Adjust the volume of sound effects for AirPods - Apple Support. Follow this guidance to adjust the AirPods volume on different devices:
"Change the volume of sound effects using iPhone or iPad
- Wear your AirPods, and make sure they’re connected to your device.
- On your iPhone or iPad, go to Settings
> Accessibility > AirPods. - Select your AirPods, then adjust Tone Volume.
For more options—such as Headphone Accommodations—tap Audio Accessibility Settings. See Set headphone accommodations for AirPods.
Change the volume of sound effects using Apple Watch
- Wear your AirPods, and make sure they’re connected to your Apple Watch.
- On your Apple Watch, go to Settings
> Accessibility > AirPods, then adjust Tone Volume.
Change the volume of sound effects using Apple TV
- Wear your AirPods, and make sure they’re connected to your Apple TV.
- On your Apple TV, go to Settings
> Accessibility > AirPods, choose your AirPods, then adjust Tone Volume.
For more options—such as Headphone Accommodations—tap Audio Accessibility Settings. See Set AirPods controls on Apple TV in the Apple TV User Guide."
You've done some great troubleshooting already. We advise checking on different media settings too. Test streamed music, downloaded music, sounds from games or videos, as well as different media sources. That can help narrow down the possible causes for this if the behavior is different under varied conditions.
We hope this helps. Let us know if we can assist with anything else at all. Take care.