You sent me scurrying to do more research before responding.
Wi-Fi 6 and Wi-Fi 6E are not unique. Each is simply a use of 802.11ax modulation in the 5 GHz band, and for 6E, continuing up into the 6 GHz band. There is no bright-line differentiation, it is a continuum.
You have selected an extremely wide data channel at 160 MHz-wide channel your Router is using about channel 60. Its data spills over and competes with everything from channel 36 to 64, inclusive. Any neighbors trying to use those channels will interfere with your use, and they will accuse you of 'hogging' the 5 GHz spectrum, making their effective use slow to impossible.
MacOS prefers wider channels, and lower-numbered channels in the 5 to 6 GHz band carry farther, so lower-numbered channels with the same channel-width are also likely to be favored.
In my opinion, you are not using 6GHz because you are already hogging 5 GHz, and selectively connecting in 5 GHz instead.
My recommendation is to adjust your Router settings: back off the channel width in 5 GHz to a more reasonable and community-minded 40 GHz channel width. (or 80 if you must, but NOT 160.)
Then increase the channel width for your 6 GHz channel up to 160 MHz wide, and I expect you will selectively connect in the 6GHz band on your 2023 Apple silicon MacBook Pro 14-in and 16-in models, which are capable for connecting up there using wWi-Fi 6E rules.
assigning channel numbers and widths interact with each other, as data spills far away from the assigned channel and into adjacent spectrum. I use an inexpensive tool called Wi-Fi Explorer to get a picture of Spectrum use. Here is an example graph:

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