it safe if i update my new iphone 11?

I have been updating my devices ever since I bought my first device in 2009. iPhone 3Gs, 4S, 5, 6, SE (1st Gen), 7, 8 and iPhone 12 Pro, iPad Pro, Macbook Air 2019, MacBook Pro 16"

I never had any issues with any iOS, iPadOS, or macOS till date.

I would personally recommend everyone to update their devices instead of listening to rumours from people who may not have kept their devices free from any spurious softwares.

iOS / iPadOS devices cannot be hacked or infected with Virus / Malware / Spyware if it is updated to the latest iOS/iPadOS unless you have intentionally downloaded spurious software or unauthorized apps directly from the internet and installed them on your device or/and have Jailbroken. 

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