Thank you for trying to help. I’ll try to provide more information so that hope fully you can.
We are using the standard iCal app that came with the iPhones (iPhone 14&13).
We are using the standard mail program app that came with the iPhones
As for accounts, I have my personal account and three family accounts (general email. Bills, junk). My wife has the same, her personal and the three family accounts.
Each of use our personal account as the default.
No, I am not editing a previously shared event. It happens every time I add an event to my calendar, it also shows up on hers. By event, I mean anything that I add. I type in an appointment to meet with a friend and it shows up on hers. I type in my doctors appointment and she gets it.
this does not happen the other way around - I do not get anything that she manually enter into hers.
one odd thing I see is that on her phone, in her calendar app, it did have my email personal address (says “shared by Tim powers”). I have no idea how this came to be as I never shared anything. In any event, that calendar.
Neither of us have any one listed under
“delegate calendars” in the calendar app.
Another odd thing that I just noticed now that you got me digging, I do not have calendar enabled for the bills nor the junk emails (under settings, calendar). However The bills show up as shared in the calendar app. I will attach pics of this.
thanks for any help.