Having recently bought a new MacBook Air (previous MacBook Pro), I am having the opposite problem, I work with thousands of pictures a day, whenever I want to UPLOAD one to an application, the default is always on Columns, I don't want this, I want ICONS, I need to see the pictures to pick the one to UPLOAD.
Its annoying having to change the setting hundreds of times a day to ICONS, my old Mac had no problem remembering this setting, but this Mac is really annoying.
As a side not, I also cannot get my Mac to remember any of my Facebook settings either, it defaults to no settings, and needs setting up every single time I open Facebook. If my old MacBook was supported by Apple (they labled it unsupported because its a 2017 model and wanted to charge me over $800 to fix the keyboard), I would never have bought this new one, I have wanted to launch it out the window soo many times !!!