can i link our messages together

Hello maddidotts,

Thank you for using Apple Support Communities. If you're trying to sync your iMessages across all your devices, you need to make sure you're using the same Apple ID on all devices you own and have Messages in iCloud enabled. This resource can show you how to use Messages in iCloud: Set up iCloud for Messages on all your devices - Apple Support

Set up iCloud for Messages on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch

1. On your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, go to Settings > [your name] > iCloud.

2. Do one of the following:

* iOS 16, iPadOS 16, or later: Tap Show All, tap Messages, then turn on Sync this [device].

* iOS 15, iPadOS 15, or earlier: Turn on Messages.

Any messages currently stored in iCloud are now accessible on your device, and any new messages you receive on your device will be stored in iCloud.

3. To make sure you can see your messages on all your devices, also check the following:

* iMessage account: On your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, go to Settings > Messages > Send & Receive. Make sure that you’re signed in to iMessage with the same Apple ID. You can choose which email addresses and phone numbers you want to send and receive messages from on each device.

* Text message forwarding: If you want to receive SMS and MMS messages on all your devices, go to Settings > Messages > Text Message Forwarding on your iPhone. Turn on text message forwarding for each device. For more information, see the Apple Support article Forward SMS/MMS text messages from your iPhone to your Mac or iPad.

4. To see messages stored in iCloud, open the Messages app.

For more information on how to use Messages on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, see any of the following:

* iPhone User Guide: Send and receive messages on iPhone and Collaborate on projects with Messages on iPhone

* iPad User Guide: Send and receive messages on iPad and Collaborate on projects with Messages on iPad

* iPod touch User Guide (iOS 15 or earlier): Send and receive text messages on iPod touch

We hope this information is useful. Thank you for using Apple Support Communities. Take care.