Hey there and welcome to Apple Support Communities DaveU77,
We can certainly understand your concern and are here to help.
We would like to ask you a couple of questions in order to get a better understanding. First, what exact version of iOS are you currently using? We ask as the menus and options can change slightly between versions of iOS, and we want to make sure we provide the most accurate steps. You can locate this by going to Settings > General > About. Also, is Auto-Join enabled for Wi-Fi ? Second, do you have any VPN's or 3rd party security software installed? Finally, is the device in low power mode when this happens?
While you gather that information, we would like you to check out this link on troubleshooting Wi-Fi issues to see if that helps: If your iPhone or iPad won't connect to a Wi-Fi network - Apple Support
We thank you for your answers, they will help guide us to the next troubleshooting step.
Kindest regards!