I have basically the same machine as you except with a 3.1 GHz processor. I've the last possible upgrade of Monterey installed but it was difficult and time consuming. It runs good now on my machine but does have a couple glitches with time machine backup (working but not manually) and iPhone backup (?).
I've learned to be very patient, don't mess with process and don't believe what it says as to time remaining, the longest minute of my life I think. Ten minutes can be a hour and a half or more. Every update since originally installed has been this way, sometimes ending in a crash failure with a difficult restart. Usually because I or something else interfered in the process I think. (Non-Mac security software or login items can do that.). Since the MacOS file system change it seems the upgrades then updates have been progressively worse like this.
With patients my last update went very smoothly though. I think it was because I connected with an Ethernet cable (not Wifi) then turned off power saving and screen saver functions so the install process couldn't be interrupted in any way. I've also learned to hardwire my keyboard and mouse to the machine and not rely on bluetooth. Sometimes the status bar doesn't seem to move at all so I put my mouse pointer at it's end to see if anything is happening. The bar will freeze for 20 minutes or so until it moves a tiny bit, then it will take off and stop again then sit. It can go through a few different status bar cycles like that then eventually the login window pops up just as all hope is being lost. I'm telling you this to underscore "PATIENCE".
What dialabrain tells you is good advice. I've done all that in the past too but the biggest thing for me I think was just to be patient with the process. It can be hard to believe it's taking this long and something hasn't happened to kill the install.
Good Luck