find my phone was used to gain app id and now forgot Apple ID and password and we have restarted phone it has locked me out

Hello woodwoodward,

If you do not remember your Apple ID, these steps from If you forgot your Apple ID email address or phone number - Apple Support are designed to help you find it:

See if you're already signed in with your Apple ID

Check to see if you're signed in on your device. Or check if you're signed in to Apple apps or services

On your iPhone, iPad, or Apple Watch

Tap Settings, then tap your name.

On your Mac

* In macOS Ventura, choose Apple menu  > System Settings, then click your name. 

* In earlier versions of macOS, choose Apple menu  > System Preferences, then click Apple ID.

On your PC

Open iCloud for Windows, then look for your Apple ID under your name. 

Other ways to find your Apple ID

* Check if you're signed in to the App Store, FaceTime, or Messages on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac, or check if you're signed in to iTunes for Windows on a PC. 

* Go to iCloud.com or appleid.apple.com and see if your Apple ID prefills on the sign-in screen. 

* If you're part of a Family Sharing group, you can ask a family member to check their Family Sharing settings for your Apple ID. 

Once you have the Apple ID, if you need to reset the password, here is how: If you forgot your Apple ID password - Apple Support

Cheers.