Apple passcode

I forgot my passcode and couldn’t remember it for the life of me, so I kept trying until I had to “erase iPhone” and when I did that and went to do all the signing in again it of course asked me to make a new passcode, I hadn’t done an iCloud backup in a while so I decide to skip recovering from that as there wasn’t much to recover, then it asked me to sign in to apple id which I did, but it asked for my now “old passcode” which I still can’t remember as of right now, so in the setting it says finish setting up iPhone and asks for the old passcode I can’t remember it and I can’t put it in correctly it will prompt me to reset and delete all my data which I don’t want to do, how do I get the old passcode back or at least bypass it somehow?

Please help!!