GBA, thanks for your help - see below
You have made a connection in the interference prone and typically VERY busy 2.4 GHz band. your Router is transmitting using 802.11n rules, which are old, bordering on antique, Issued in 2003, replaced in 2009 with 802.11ac and again in 2014 with 802.11ax). - 2.4 because the access points around the property don't do 5GHz - not busy we live in the middle of nowhere - Router does 802/b/g/n/ax mixed - don't know how to force it to use the ax option - no settings in the router that I can see.
It is very surprising you have not connected in the 5 GHz band instead, unless your Router is so old it does not have the 5 GHz band. If you are in an apartment building, that will NOT be good enough. Router is brand new and connects at 5GHz when I am near it.
You have good signal strength at -59 dB, where about -40 is 'right next to the router' and -65 is 'searching for new network to join'. What is NOT good is noise at -75 db (should be more like -95 dB) which indicates active interference, likely from other Router nearby, microwave ovens, baby monitors, or portable landline telephone and similar sources. Noise might be caused by ethernet over power adapters, but otherwise no other routers, baby monitors or landlines - Broadband is supplied by WiFi dish on the outside of the house.
You are using 16 pattern per signaling interval, likely because the next step up, which uses 64 patterns per signaling interval, is not sustainable with this interference level. Both antennas in your Mac are working together.
I do not think you have a hardware problem. I think the significant point here is that if I run a speed test, like "Nperf" the speed instantly jumps up to 20/20MBs, but not for any other software. what is the speedtest doing that 'opens the valve'
Again thanks for your help...
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