mine won’t load when i try to verify my number

Did you set up your iPhone with your SIM card inserted?

Also have a look at the troubleshooting in this article:

If you can’t turn on or sign in to iMessage or FaceTime on your iPhone - Apple Support

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• Set up Messages on iPhone - Apple Support
• Get a verification code and sign in with two-factor authentication - Apple Support
• Two-factor authentication for Apple ID - Apple Support

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