Hi MeMarsh,
It's unclear how your iPhone and Apple Watch are simultaneously paired but not showing the device in the Apple Watch app. If you recently switched your device or completed other changes that could explain what you're seeing.
Erase the Apple Watch using the steps in Unpair and erase your Apple Watch on the watch itself:
- "On your Apple Watch, tap Settings > General > Reset > Erase All Content and Settings.
- Type your password if prompted.
- For GPS + Cellular models, choose to keep or remove your cellular plan.
- If you want to pair your Apple Watch and iPhone again, keep your plan.
- If you don't want to pair your Apple Watch and iPhone again, remove your plan. If you aren't going to pair with a different watch or iPhone, you might need to contact your carrier to cancel your cellular subscription.
4. Tap Erase All to confirm. This resets your Apple Watch to the factory settings.
Now you can set up your Apple Watch again. You'll need the Apple ID and password associated with the watch turn off Activation Lock."
Once erased complete the linked directions to set it up again which should remedy the concerns you're reporting regarding connection.
Regards.