Remote sharing options turning on automatically

Sure. Here are a few screen shots of what I described and some stuff I didn't mention. The dialog boxes with administrators appear normal. however as mentioned I've deleted the administrator remote access rights repeatedly and they keep reappearing. The other ones seem even less explainable as I didn't approve access rights for those or anyone. I keep my macbook in lockdown mode mostly, I'm the only one on my network aside form kids when they're here, I fully erase and reinstall Mac OS regularly using disk utility, erase assistant and recovery (average 1x per month), following the processes specified by Apple often with the hands on guidance of Apple support, I reset my router regularly (average 2x per month), and I do the same with my phones probably each 1x per 2 months. I've come to suspect that there is some sort of process going on at startup as certain options like loginwindow seem to be changing the power allocation at startup (I know this because I caught a glimpse of it, immediately went to spotlight to find it, and spotlight said it had paused indexing to allow that process to complete. I don't have a screenshot of that but I can probably generate one if it makes a difference. you can see however that when I search in settings for login window it indicates there is an option somewhere but I cannot make it reveal itself. I read that it's possible to hide and unhide users on the Mac. To unhide them best as I can tell you need their name which I don't know. I actually sent a long email after posting this to apple security describing about 10 things which are concerning. I'm not a computer person, but I am a logical person. And either there is a security issue, or the dialog boxes are extremely poorly written in many cases because they suggest that there is a security issue. There's not a consistent pattern with these "violations". So sometimes when I remove an access right it comes back in 5mins. Other times it's stable for a period of maybe a few weeks. Some application names keep reappearing. Like SMDB, sh key generator in the past. And then other times new ones come up like this ARDP that popped up in my firewall settings turned to green. I then changed him to red and he's remained like that for a day I think. I've copied the text of the email I sent to apple security below. . I actually dont' have much of anything to hide or protect from a hacker, I just feel very strongly about privacy. So I'm not clear what the motive would be. Sorry for all the reading. If you have any experience or feeling for whether this is an attack or merely a host of poor design issues which result in applications automating approvals which the interface strongly suggests are supposed to be in the control of the administrator, I'd be grateful to hear them.

Barney's a great name by the way. We share that in common.