Device already associated with Apple ID 90 day waiting period

It doesn't have anything to do with Family Sharing. It has to do with switching IDs on a device too frequently. See the article: View and remove your devices that are associated with Apple ID purchases - Apple Support - Read "More about associated devices" at the end where it refers to the 90 day wait. This applies to re-downloading past purchases (you can make new purchases), automatic downloads, and iCloud based services such as Family Sharing, Match, and Apple Music.

You would have to ask Apple. The delay is likely there for a reason.

Refer to this document for ways to contact Apple ➞ Choose your country or region - Official Apple Support

Select your country (also look for "other" regions), then a product. If you don't see one that handles your issue then keep experimenting with selections until you reach one that gets you a chat session or a telephone call and get the representative to redirect you.

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Contact Apple for support and service by telephone ➞ Contact Apple for support and service - Apple Support