I was told by my friends that the updates hurt the apple device. Aka makes it worse. Can someone clarify if that is true or not?
I just need a person to help me understand if this is true or not. That’s it.
iPad, iPadOS 14
If you’re really still on iPadOS 14, you’re ~three years out of date.
For iPad models with current support, the most recent is iPadOS 17.2, released today.
Here is how to: Update your iPhone or iPad - Apple Support
and what to do: If your iPhone or iPad won't update - Apple Support
You also seem to have acquaintances providing incorrect advice too, apparently.