Automatic Login has some very Specific Requirements to be enabled. or Disabled
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If the setting is dimmed or unavailable
If the automatic login setting is dimmed or doesn't show the account name, then manual login is required. For example, manual login is required in these circumstances:
- FileVault is turned on.
- Your Mac is supervised by your organization, using a profile that prohibits automatic login.
- The account is set up to use an iCloud password to log in. In that case, you might also see the message “A user with an encrypted home folder can't log in automatically.” Learn how to change the login password.
If you are referring to " I know there was a key combo at startup "
Reset Computer Password for the Administrator Account Password
Intel Computer
Shutdown the computer
Restart computer and immediately hold the two keyboard combo Command r
If using a Bluetooth Keyboard with Rechargeable Battery - Cable the Keyboard to computer for this unique purpose. Bluetooth Kernel may not load soon enough to execute the 2 keyboard commands
Top Tool Bar >> Utilities >> Terminal
Type resetpassword as one word and no spaces
Press Return key
Follow the prompts and remember the New Password
Apple Silicon M1 / M2 /M3 Computer
Choose Apple menu > > Shut Down
If using a Bluetooth Keyboard with Rechargeable Battery - Cable the Keyboard to computer for this unique purpose.
Do not attempt a Restart to access this feature. The computer Must be Shutdown and pause for about 10 seconds before moving forwards
Press and hold the power button on your Mac until you see “Loading startup options.”
Click Options, then click Continue.
Top Tool Bar >> Utilities >> Terminal
Type resetpassword as one word and no spaces
Press Return key
Follow the prompts and remember the New Password