SW2106 wrote:
So is the only way for an iPhone to be potentially controlled remotely, by some sort of spurious software, is that it needs the target phone to have to accept and give permission? Again this seems to be a common thought.
"Spurious" means not being what it purports to be; false or fake. So, I may not be understanding what you're saying.
The software that can successfully target iPhones remotely exists. It is exactly what it purports to be. And, it costs hundreds of thousands of dollars to deploy to target one iPhone. No permission is required from the iPhone users. Its use, largely because of cost, is not terribly common.
Many people, either because they have been mislead by scare-mongering news, or by people who have fallen down the rabbit hole of paranoia, think that it's much easier and more common for iPhones to be remotely controlled. They are mistaken. If your phone has not been jailbroken and you're not someone who has data worth hundreds of thousands of dollars, your phone has not been remotely compromised. At least at this point in history.
Clicking on link in a text will not compromise your phone. However, if that link leads to a phishing site and you give your personal information, it can certainly lead to indentity theft and compromised accounts.
Don't jailbreak your phone.
Don't leave your phone sitting around unlocked.
Don't give your iPhone password or your Apple ID password to anyone you wouldn't trust with your wallet full of cash, credit cards and bearer bonds.
Do enable two-factor authentication.
Do learn to identify phishing messages.
Do keep your operating system up to date.
Do take what you read on the internet with a very big pile of salt.