How to stop family from stalking me on my Apple devices?

Change your password and enable two-factor authentication. And, verify the devices on your account. (appleid.apple.com)

You can also use safety check: How Safety Check on iPhone works to keep you safe - Apple Support

What did you find by running Safety Check using the link provided by muguy? You will be able to use this to review:

• Trusted Devices
• Trusted Phone numbers
• Emergency Contact Info
• Apps that are sharing your data
• Identify devices managed by third parties

These are all important in identifying if anyone else has access to any of your account information.

Along with changing your Apple ID password, you would also need to change the password with the other services that you had suggested, like Amazon, Spotify, Xfinity, or the ones you currently have. If you no longer use a Mail account, make sure you close it otherwise anyone else can continue to get emails, if they have the password, from those services where that email was used. Each service also has their own two factor authentication option for security.

Specifically for your Apple account being compromised this support may help, but each service you have used would have different measures to secure your account.

If you think your Apple ID has been compromised - Apple Support

If this has been ongoing for two years, has been happening across multiple iPhones and ongoing through multiple attempts to re-secure your Apple ID, and you’ve undoubtedly had previous discussions about your security and other related details too, then for what you are reporting here, you will want contact legal representation or contact the police if that’s an option for you.

What you are reporting here is way past anything that you can get help with around here, particularly given what you report has already happened here—in the past two years, you will have undoubtedly already gotten all of the usual suggestions, and you wouldn’t be asking here if any of those previous security suggestions had resolved this.

Whatever is happening here is not something you will be able to get help with here.

Again, see the links provided to secure your account if you think it is compromised. That's all that you need to do.

january257 wrote:

Mr. H. It’s still happening every day. Do you know - Groundhog days? Please stop.

And your approach for seeking help with what you are reporting will continue to fail, too.

For nearly as long as you report this has been ongoing, across multiple iPhones, across multiple attempts to re-secure your Apple ID, across multiple postings seeking assistance, for what you are reporting, you will want contact legal representation or to contact the police if that’s an option for you.

What you are reporting here is far past anything that you can get help with via forum postings.

In the past two years, you will have undoubtedly already gotten all of the usual security suggestions, and you wouldn’t be asking here again if any of those previous security suggestions had resolved this.

Whatever is happening here is not something you will be able to get help with here. Or in any other forums. Not after two years’ efforts and discussions and still failing to resolve this.