Unable to update due to forgotten passcode

It's not necessary to have access to the email. Just knowing the address you used to set up the phone will suffice.

But if you forgot your passcode, you cannot find it. Its fully encrypted on your phone and isn't retrievable. The phone has to be erased, then you can restore from your most recent backup.

See how to do that in this link --> If you forgot your iPhone passcode, use your Mac or PC to reset it - Apple Support

I no longer have access to the email address that is one of my Apple ID’s. I Raul like to delete that one and just use my other one