It sounds frustrating! Here are some steps you can try to troubleshoot the issue:
1. **Restart your iPhone**: Sometimes a simple restart can resolve installation issues.
2. **Check your internet connection**: Make sure you have a stable internet connection while downloading and installing the update.
3. **Delete the downloaded update**: Go to Settings > General > iPhone Storage, find the downloaded update, and delete it. Then try downloading and installing the update again.
4. **Update using iTunes/Finder**: Connect your iPhone to your computer and try updating using iTunes (on macOS Mojave and earlier) or Finder (on macOS Catalina and later).
5. **Reset network settings**: Go to Settings > General > Reset > Reset Network Settings. This will reset Wi-Fi networks and passwords, cellular settings, and VPN settings.
6. **Update using Recovery Mode**: If none of the above steps work, you can try updating your iPhone using Recovery Mode. This will erase all data on your iPhone, so make sure to back up your device first.
If the issue persists after trying these steps, it might be a good idea to contact Apple Support for further assistance. They can provide more personalized troubleshooting based on your specific situation.