apple pay defaults to my debit card despite being set up with another card as default
When I physically pay with my phone, it goes to the correct card. But several times lately, on-line purchases have charge my debit card, a card I only use to sign in to the bank to get cash and never to pay for items. And which alerts my co-account holder every purchase, which violates my privacy. How can I get it to use my preferred default payment method, instead? I don't want to delete the card, as I do use it at the bank.
iPhone 15, iOS 17