Voice control aggrevations. Siri says it can't "start listening" then does, then no command center

I use voice control on my iPhone to control my Apple TV, when not in use, I say "Stop listening iphone" and it does. The screen locks, I go about my day. I'm off work and want to turn on Apple TV, follow this process:

[phone is locked, screen is off, voice control is enabled, but not listening]

Hey Siri, start listening iphone --->"i can't help with that, but you can change it in settings" remains off

Hey Siri, [8 second pause]...start listening iphone --->"i can't help with that, but you can change it in settings" VC turns on

[phone is locked, screen is off, voice control is enabled and listening]

Hey Siri, open control center ----> "you need to unlock yout iPhone first...Sorry, I can't do that". Phone remains locked

Hey Siri, [8 second pause] open control center ----> "Sorry, I can't help you with that" Control center opens

I don't remember the exact steps to do it, but I get "It doesn't look lke you have an app called control center" after a hey siri command.

NEXT aggravation:

used VC to get to apple tv remote. Sitting at home screen command "swipe left or right" used to move one app at a time. Now it goes two at a time. 6 icons, I want the one in the 2nd column, I need to sawy swipe right [1->3], swipe right [3->5], swipe right [5 ->6], then swipe left [6->4] swipe left [4->2]

This seems like it may have started with ios 16