Hello ec40
I have not succeeded in using eye tracking either. It is not good enough.
There is head tracking built into iOS on certain devices (you need the true-depth camera) and this works better then eye tracking, but in my experience not as good as using an external device for head tracking. An external head tracking device however can cost as much as your iPad!
The implementation of head tracking on iOS is a mystery to me. It is implemented differently to MacOS. It is part of switch control which complicates the feature, and you cannot use it with Assistive Touch to get access to things like dwell, scrolling etc. You can use it with gestures (for scrolling etc), but this method is not as intuitive. Using gestures may have some fans, but in my experience is not as easy as the way head tracking works on the Mac. Head tracking on the Mac is, in my experience, relatively good.
I was hoping Apple would improve the head tracking on iOS and make it more like the implementation on the Mac, but this has not happened yet, and may not be something that will change. I don't think there will be many serious users until it is improved. (If there are people out there using it - post a response on your experience). Eye tracking is a relatively new feature - we will have to see if it improves, otherwise it will be a feature without any practical use.
I hope that helps, even if not the answer you were probably hoping for.