Ok, based on what you provided, here's what I suggest your next steps should include:
Step 1: Back up your Mac (high priority)
Since you’ve never backed up before, I strongly recommend using an external drive that’s at least 1 TB to give you room to grow. Reliable options include drives from brands like Samsung, SanDisk, or Western Digital. Once connected, go to System Settings → General → Time Machine, select the external drive, and let Time Machine complete a full backup. The first backup may take several hours, so it’s best to leave the Mac plugged in and undisturbed.
Step 2: Identify what’s actually using space
Go to System Settings → General → Storage and allow it a minute to calculate. “System Data” often looks alarming, but it usually includes caches, logs, local snapshots, and iOS backups. Click each category, especially Applications, Documents, and Mail, and sort by size to find the biggest offenders.
Step 3: Free space safely
- Enable Optimize Storage and Empty Trash Automatically from the Storage recommendations
- Remove applications you no longer use (many apps can be reinstalled later)
- Check for large files like old installers, videos, or downloads
- Restart the Mac after cleanup to help macOS clear temporary system data
Step 4: Get enough space for updates
macOS updates typically need 20–30 GB free. After the above steps, you should have enough space to update safely.