It's not a Tahoe problem. I get the same problem on Sequoia when copying to my QNAP NAS. Not only does it create a load of _DS files it creates small _*** files for every file that's copied. E.g. if I copy a seeds.doc file to my NAS it will create a _seeds.doc file which is a small file. This happens with Finder and rsync and, hence, any apps that use rsync such as Carbon Copy Cloner.
Only Finder has a problem with the NAS when these _*** files are in the directory and note that Finder doesn't display them even if display hidden is toggled. I see them when I log in to the NAS web interface and use the NAS File Manager, which doesn't have a problem with them. They seem to lock some file for Finder but not the QNAP file manager.
I believe they are something to do with SMB. I'm on NAS, you're on Synology and we both see it so unfortunately that implies it's a MacOS problem.
You can delete all the _*** files using a Terminal command, although they will be recreated the next time you copy. When I dug into this I noticed that Carbon Copy Cloner was just adding copies of the same file with random characters in the name, so it's clearly impacted by it. i.e. i'd see Seeds.doc Seeds.doc.dje, Seeds.doc.tjd, Seeds.doc.etc. They were all updated files but CCC was obviously not able to overwrite the original file.
dot_clean -m --keep=native /Volumes/<insert your NAS details>
You can just type "dot_clean -m --keep=native " and then drag the relevant directory from you NAS onto terminal. However, they will come back the next time you add files to the NAS from Mac. I run it before a CCC backup to make sure that I'm not just adding files instead of overwriting. I've left my Time Machine backup alone but I'm a bit worried about it.
I spent a bit of time on this when I first saw it last year, including changing the SMB settings on Mac to not write the _*** files but nothing fixed it and it's way outside my area of expertise. I've tested my Time Machine backups to make sure they are not being buggered but I have a niggling worry about this and will give it more time when I can.