shereen253 wrote:
It’s not allowing me to turn off find my
That is correct. You cannot turn off Lost Mode or Find My without the password for the Apple Account or help from the person who owns the Apple Account. Activation Lock is an anti-theft mechanism – and if the phone is now in Lost Mode, that means that the person to whom it is registered explicitly marked it as lost or stolen.
If this is your Apple Account, and you have forgotten your password, you might be able to reset the password, after which you could satisfy Activation Lock. If you bought a second-hand phone that is locked to somebody else, and the seller has conveniently "disappeared"; or if you logged into a scammer's Apple Account on your phone, that phone is now, and will remain, a useless "brick".
How to remove Activation Lock – Apple Support