Hi Roy Bradshaw
Re: Getting audio feedback on FaceTime:
Apple support have an article online (link below) that may help you solve your issues:
See how to: Change audio options for FaceTime calls on Mac - Apple Support
Eg: says:
"On a Mac with Apple silicon, Spatial Audio makes it sound like your friends are in the room with you.
With audio options, you can mute the call, adjust the volume, or adjust microphone settings to filter out background sounds or capture the sounds around you."
NB: If you want to control the Volume: you can
- "Change the volume of your microphone: Choose Apple menu
> System Settings, then click Sound
in the sidebar. (You may need to scroll down.) Go to Output & Input on the right, click Input, then drag the “Input volume” slider. - Change the volume you hear: Click
in the menu bar or Control Centre, then drag the slider to adjust the volume. See Turn your Mac volume up or down."
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Re: " ... I hear myself coming back louder than the person I am talking to ... "
If changing the microphone volume to suit is not enough:
FaceTime may be set to include the sounds from the environment you are in, including your voice ?
Above linked article says:
"Filter out background sounds
When you want your voice to be heard clearly on a FaceTime call, you can turn on Voice Isolation (available on Mac models 2018 and later). Voice Isolation prioritises your voice on a FaceTime call and blocks out the ambient noise.
- Use Voice Isolation during a video call: Click
in the menu bar, click
next to Mic Mode, then select Voice Isolation. - Use Voice Isolation during an audio call: Click
in the menu bar, then select Voice Isolation."
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Include the sounds around you
When you want your voice and all the sounds around you to be heard on a FaceTime call, you can turn on Wide Spectrum (available on Mac models 2018 and later).
Do any of the following:
- Use Wide Spectrum during a video call: Click
in the menu bar, click
next to Mic Mode, then select Wide Spectrum. - Use Wide Spectrum during an audio call: Click
in the menu bar, then select Wide Spectrum.
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Re: " ... the person I am talking to hears an echo of themselves when talking to me."
Depending on the computer or device model and software that the person is using, they may be able to turn on Voice Isolation too. Some devices may use other settings instead, eg: noise cancellation
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Resource:
FaceTime User Guide for macOS Tahoe : FaceTime User Guide for Mac - Apple Support