Remote support for a friend's Mac

Expert me

I have a mate who thinks of me as a Mac 'expert'. I'm no expert, but he is very limited in his knowledge of computers which makes me an 'expert' in his eyes. Trying to fix things over the phone is very time consuming because he barely has a grip on what menus are. He has a 27" iMac running Tahoe.


Remote Access for two computers miles away

When he rings with a problem, instead of me driving 10km to his place, I'd like to set up a system whereby I can remotely access his computer. He's happy for me to do that and I did try to set it up at my end, but couldn't do it. I did set it up at his end via the Sharing preferences.


So I searched for how to set up remote access. Apple's instructions came up near the top, but their meaning of 'remote' appears to be different from mine. I think they meant remote (other computer) on the same wifi network.


So I searched for how to set up remote internet access. Not of much use either, other than he'd have to get a static IP address ($10/month in Australia) and various other settings would have to be changed.


An easier way?

There must be an easier way. Reddit had suggestions about Messages and Screen Sharing. Messages isn't going to work for me because I'm running Mavericks, although I do have a MacBook Pro on my Desktop, running Ventura. I'm Screen Sharing on my iMac from my MacBook writing this.


So, given that I would prefer to run directly from Mavericks, but could do so from Ventura, what is the best way forward?


Questions

  1. Find detailed instructions on how to set up direct internet access to his static IP address? Where could I find those instructions?
  2. Use Screen Sharing under Ventura?
  3. Use Messages under Ventura? Neither of us has ever used Messages. I'm not even sure he has an Apple account.


The idea is – he rings, I connect to his computer, and see what I can do.

Posted on Jun 9, 2026 9:44 AM

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Guy Burns wrote:
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Questions1.
Find detailed instructions on how to set up direct internet access to his static IP address? Where could I find those instructions?
Use Screen Sharing1. under Ventura?
Use Messages1. under Ventura? Neither of us has ever used Messages. I'm not even sure he has an Apple account.
The idea is – he rings, I connect to his computer, and see what I can do.


Don't hassle with direct remote access via IP addressing and internet sharing. Too much trouble and unnecseearily complex.


Ensure that your friend has an Apple Account. It's pretty much a requirement for much of Apple's ecosystem and has little to no downside.

Then yes, use Screen Sharing under Ventura through the Messages app.


I did this from Arizona for my grandmother in Iowa many years ago with now-obsolete Macs. I did the same just yesterday for my mom, also here in Az. It works well. She rings, I connect and do what I can. Her iMac runs Sequoia and my MBA runs Tahoe.


Share your screen using Messages on Mac - Apple Support - select the Ventura OS at the top of that linked doc.




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Jun 9, 2026 10:39 AM in response to Guy Burns

Guy Burns wrote:
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Questions1.
Find detailed instructions on how to set up direct internet access to his static IP address? Where could I find those instructions?
Use Screen Sharing1. under Ventura?
Use Messages1. under Ventura? Neither of us has ever used Messages. I'm not even sure he has an Apple account.
The idea is – he rings, I connect to his computer, and see what I can do.


Don't hassle with direct remote access via IP addressing and internet sharing. Too much trouble and unnecseearily complex.


Ensure that your friend has an Apple Account. It's pretty much a requirement for much of Apple's ecosystem and has little to no downside.

Then yes, use Screen Sharing under Ventura through the Messages app.


I did this from Arizona for my grandmother in Iowa many years ago with now-obsolete Macs. I did the same just yesterday for my mom, also here in Az. It works well. She rings, I connect and do what I can. Her iMac runs Sequoia and my MBA runs Tahoe.


Share your screen using Messages on Mac - Apple Support - select the Ventura OS at the top of that linked doc.




Jun 9, 2026 11:22 AM in response to Guy Burns

I have been doing what you'r asking for several years now with my brother's, and my daughter's computers. Originally I used the messages app to connect with them but after a couple of OS upgrades it was nothing but trouble, would't connect etc. Apple has the screen sharing app under applications/utilities (as another user posted here

).. Very simple to use as all you need is the apple id from who you want to connect to, sit ends a message to your person seeking help, which they have to authorize and give you permission to control their computer. I have had no problems with this system. FWIW.

Regards

Jun 9, 2026 10:56 AM in response to Guy Burns

Guy Burns wrote:
Expert me
I have a mate who thinks of me as a Mac 'expert'. I'm no expert, but he is very limited in his knowledge of computers which makes me an 'expert' in his eyes. Trying to fix things over the phone is very time consuming because he barely has a grip on what menus are. He has a 27" iMac running Tahoe.
Remote Access for two computers miles away
When he rings with a problem, instead of me driving 10km to his place, I'd like to set up a system whereby I can remotely access his computer. He's happy for me to do that and I did try to set it up at my end, but couldn't do it. I did set it up at his end via the Sharing preferences.
So I searched for how to set up remote access. Apple's instructions came up near the top, but their meaning of 'remote' appears to be different from mine. I think they meant remote (other computer) on the same wifi network.
So I searched for how to set up remote internet access. Not of much use either, other than he'd have to get a static IP address ($10/month in Australia) and various other settings would have to be changed.
An easier way?
There must be an easier way. Reddit had suggestions about Messages and Screen Sharing. Messages isn't going to work for me because I'm running Mavericks, although I do have a MacBook Pro on my Desktop, running Ventura. I'm Screen Sharing on my iMac from my MacBook writing this.
So, given that I would prefer to run directly from Mavericks, but could do so from Ventura, what is the best way forward?
Questions1.
Find detailed instructions on how to set up direct internet access to his static IP address? Where could I find those instructions?
Use Screen Sharing1. under Ventura?
Use Messages1. under Ventura?
The idea is – he rings, I connect to his computer, and see what I can do.

I understand what you want to do. You basically want to connect to his computer and "operate" it as if you were there in person.


I don't believe the built in Apple "sharing" tools allow for full execution of software remotely, although they do allow you to see files, folders, move, save and delete things. Which might be helpful.


With the company I have worked for, their IT help department (which is you in this case!) always connected remotely via a commercial tool that had some security safeguards. For instance the user at the computer you want to control has to send back a security code to permit full remote operation of the computer.


If it's Adobe that is the issue here, years ago my daughter had an issue with getting all her presets migrated over (this was before switching to Adobe CC which handles that automatically now in the cloud) and I called an Adobe help line, with her Adobe subscription she qualified for online help and they did remotely connect to her Mac using a commercial tool for remote access and fixed her issue. To do that she created a temporary login password for him to use that was different from her normal one. The support person was in India and was technically very good, and we could watch what he was doing in real time, it's all visible on the screen. He basically moved some files and folders, which could have actually been done simply with the built in Apple Sharing setup, without allowing remote control of the Mac. One needs to be careful about this, never do it when someone has contacted you, but in this case we contacted Adobe support ourselves. Not sure I would be comfortable with that today, however.


Bottom line is that I think you will need a commercial tool.


Possible showstopper: you running something as old as Mavericks or even Ventura (which is very out of date) might not mesh well with his Mac being on a modern MacOS such as Tahoe. I would investigate the commercial tools others here have already suggested but make sure that whatever you select will work well with that odd mix of operating systems. I really don't think it will work at all with Mavericks and possibly not even with Ventura, but it does depend on the specific tool you select and its requirements.


Mavericks does not even recognize APFS drives, and all Tahoe drives have to be APFS. So I don't think you on Mavericks will even be able to see files, folders, and drives on a Tahoe Mac.


I would be leery about what you see on Reddit. Messages is limited in what it can do, as is Screen Sharing. You can do remote access using Unix command like ssh but that requires you to delve into that. And I don't know how the mismatch in MacOS versions will impact all this.


Sometimes low tech works almost as well. I help my daughter sometimes where she simply Facetimes with me and she props up her iPhone and then we work through what is going on with her Mac, and I walk her through different troubleshooting steps.

Jun 9, 2026 9:58 AM in response to Kurt Lang

Kurt Lang wrote:
Hmm, interesting. You posted the exact same opening line about having a mate that thinks you're a Mac expert, only that was supposedly an issue with Photoshop.
I now suddenly have the impression you're just making these problems up.

If you read the other thread, the OP stated, "So I went over..." about what he did a month ago to fix the problem. Then again, "So I went over..." yesterday and fixed the problem, only to get a call that the fix stopped working.


Sounds to me like he's looking for a way to avoid having to physically travel to help out his mate, and would rather address the issues remotely via screen sharing. Seems quite reasonable.

Jun 9, 2026 10:09 AM in response to neuroanatomist

Now Kurt, you're being difficult.


I actually posted this question as a reply under my other thread. But then I thought: it's not a good idea to combine two questions, even though they are very closely related. So I deleted my own "Reply" and posted it here.


Gil's computer has a problem, and I have a problem trying to fix it because of the travelling involved. Two distinct problems that do exist.


What's the best way forward for me to connect to his computer, and have full control, from 10 kms away?

Jun 9, 2026 11:17 AM in response to KiltedTim

KiltedTim wrote:
The built in screen sharing app lets you take over complete control with the permission of the person physically operating the machine.

I was not aware of that. In that case, this could be the answer, but I don't think it will work with Mavericks because the Mavericks Mac cannot even tell what an APFS drive is and it should be checked that a Ventura Mac will work with the other Mac on Tahoe. I am guessing that it will. I guess it might be worth a try.

Jun 9, 2026 11:21 AM in response to steve626

There's no need for any of that. It's just remote control. Neither machine interacts directly with the file system of the other. It's possible to send files from one to the other, but you're not mounting the drives that way.


Basically, it just lets you see what's on the screen and control the keyboard and mouse. Think of it as a long distance KVM switch.

Jun 10, 2026 4:35 AM in response to Guy Burns

Thanks for all the feedback and suggestions, but I'll need more than that to get this working. This is going to be difficult to achieve with my mate, given his lack of computer know-how. Forty minutes to get the first Message (he thought by "Message" I meant emails, even though I said look for Go Applications in the menu. At one point he was looking for messages on his phone!) Then another 30 minutes to log into iCloud. I gave up after another 20 minutes trying to explain how to turn on Screen Sharing in Setup. Is that even necessary?


We did get as far as exchanging messages (via Messages), but that's where it came to an end. Inside Messages, my "Share" icon, under the information icon, is dimmed. So I turned to Apple and it said "make sure you are both connected to iCloud". Took a while to get that organised – but the icon is still dimmed.


I think the only solution to this dilemma is to get my end working, to make sure I am actually set up correctly to screen share remotely.


Screen-Sharing Helper Needed

Is anyone who has contributed to this thread willing to Screen Share with me, just to make sure I can do it? Then I'll give it another go with my mate.


Indicate you're doing so in this thread so that others don't need to. I'll be looking for messages every now and then from around now, 8am USA East Coast time, to ~3pm. It's a dark cold winter night here in Tasmania, but I stay up till the early hours.




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